Jamie was laid off yesterday. It came as a shock but probably should not have been a surprise. He has been miserable since he took over as the director and we have felt for a long time that he has been setup for failure.
Back in my career days, I was laid off once when I was at the top of my game. I worked in Salt Lake City for a powerful publishing company we will call Meseret Book. I was over all the events for the corporate office and their 38 stores. The employees were like family and I truly loved going to work every day.
Until a tyrannical dictator took over as president. We will call this person Heri Spew. Heri was a beloved member of the community and popular motivational speaker and author. Behind closed doors, Heri was cold, calculating and feared. You did not talk to Heri unless Heri talked to you. And if you dared to disagree with Heri? Forget it.
After receiving a healthy raise and much praise from my boss, I went to work one day to find out that Heri had axed my position, along with about ¼ of the corporate office. No warning, no severance. I was seriously bummed but I was single so I knew I would get by. It enraged me that my fellow employees and family men – many who had been there for their entire careers – were not given any provisions. Except a swift kick out the door.
I was glad I was in the first round of layoffs because Heri’s R.O.T. (or Reign of Terror as we called it) continued long after, creating an environment of trepidation for those left behind. To this day, whenever I hear of anyone praising Heri, I have to bite my tongue and think, “Oh, if they only knew.”
I am in the same situation with Jamie’s job. There is so much I could say about the gross mismanagement and certain incongruous employees but I won’t. I would like to say I am taking the high road but I am not. I just feel out of respect for Jamie, my relationship with the newspaper and key players who read this blog that I need to keep my mouth shut. For once.
Make no mistake - this is a stressful time. But there is also hope. Jamie has been “romanced” by another company for months but they have been unable to extend an offer due to some vendor contract issues. We hadn’t heard from them for a while and Jamie’s work stresses reached a climax a couple of weeks ago
The two of us decided to have a fast about the direction he should take with his job. For those not in the “Mormon know,” fasting consists of skipping a couple of meals, praying for inspiration regarding a certain cause (that also includes forgetting how hungry you are) and then proceeding to “break the fast” by eating more calories than you would consume in a week.
Two days after we fasted, he was contacted by this company and invited to sit in on a consult a few days after that. Four days later, he was laid off. A coincidence? I think not.
So right now, we are in limbo. Jamie doesn’t have an offer and things will not be in place for a few weeks, if at all. But I have no doubt in my mind that this was meant to happen, that he will move on to a better situation, whatever and whenever it may be. And though I am apprehensive, I also feel peace.
And for that, I am grateful.
Update: Jamie received a lucrative offer from the other company. We will finally finish our basement with the chunk of money from his severance package. Feeling so blessed and thank you for your support!
Wednesday, February 13, 2008
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That is such a difficult position to be in, especially when you have a family. I'm glad the fast brought you some peace with the situation. I hope that things fall into place for Jamie.
Amber - I know how scary this can be. We went through the same thing with Mike's job when Logan was about 1 year old. And a better opportunity opened for Mike and eventually we were able to move back closer to our family. The same will happen for Jamie. I'll be thinking of you my friend!
I hope the pieces fall into place quickly for you. Thanks for the little-known dirt. Very interesting.
If anyone can make it through this, the Canucks can!
Praying for you...
I'm a firm believer in no coincidences when you have involved the power of prayer and fasting, especially. Uncertainty when kids are involved stinks!
I once had a job that ended up being a total bust - the bosses may as well been sitting in the back room at Luigi's smoking cigars, repeating "forget about it," eating garlic bread and plotting who was next to go down. After sitting in a few meetings hearing them talk about "getting rid" of a few people because they didn't like their attitude or they had looked at them wrong in the hallway, I decided I was getting out of dodge before I ended up sinking in the Hudson River (did I mention that I was in ILLINOIS, though) Anyway, I had my first child and quit. I found out later that they were going to axe me when I got back from leave - right before the holidays. I have never been more gleeful to have "done it to them" before they could have the satisfaction of doing it to me.
KEEP BELIEVING
I hope that things smooth out for you guys soon and that a better job looms quickly on the horizon.
I had always kind of had a feeling that Heri was a bit of a cold fish.
You are a very strong woman. This is an inspiring post about dealing with adversity. Thank you for the perspective. And I trust that everything will work out fabulously well for you both. You are in my thoughts.
Welcome to the club. Ned also received a shocking layoff recently -- for the second time in a year. He is currently unemployed, looking for a suitable situation. He has been courted by a few, but nothing has worked out yet. We're hopeful though.
Good luck to Jamie, and I'm glad you're able to see the bright side of things!
so interesting to hear this side of heri. i am astounded that you were sacked without any kind of severence. as were the other people. how unethical.
sorry about jamie's job, but it sounds like things are in motion and you guys will be okay. i'll keep you in my prayers.
I am keeping you guys in my thoughts! I just know that everything will work out for you both. You guys are too smart and fabulous to be down for long!
Such an odd experience, isn't it? That mix of apprehension and peace. I feel much the same about the big changes happening our life. Good luck to you guys! (and by the way? loooove your definition of fasting!)
I just wanted to say good luck and that y'all will be in my prayers!
It's interesting how hard times come and seem totally unfair, but you look later and realize they were the greatest blessings of your life. While I would love more stories of Heri Stew, I understand that you might not be able to tell more. I love me a good Utah scandal.
Good luck in the upcoming weeks, friend.
Wow-interesting Heri story. I have to say I'm completely surprised, but I guess I shouldn't be.
I hope that things fall into place quickly. We would be up a creek with a lay off.
I'm really sorry about the layoff. I hope that this truly is a blessing in disguise and that Jamie will find something he loves doing. Sending out good thoughts and prays for you in the coming weeks. I hope something fanstatic works out for you all!
You are a better woman than I! I would probably be completely freaked out in that situation. It's great that you can step back and see that this was supposed to happen and believe that it will all work out.
It is truly difficult to be in the position of hating your job. It can affect every aspect of your life. I have been in that situation several times through the years. Fortunately most of the time I was able to find something better before any layoffs happened. However one time I was laid off from a company that was full of people who would stab their grandmother in the back if they thought it would get them ahead. I'm just not that way and I was completely miserable. They laid off after only 4 months with no warning and only two weeks severance. It worked out to be the best thing that could have happened to me!
Hang in there! I know it will all work out for the best.
I'm really sorry that he was laid off just like that, with absolutely no warning. It shouldn't be allowed (and neither should what happened to you have been allowed!) - but I am so glad you believe it to be a step in a better direction. I hope it will all work out - and soon!
Heidi
Sheri, er, I mean Heri Spew, who would've thunk?!
I once had a boss like that, and when I told him he had no business working with actual human beings I was pretty sure a termination was in my future. At least I was prepared!
A lot of this seems to be going around lately, hope it works out well for everyone. You've got my long distance love and support!
Oh, man! What is going on? Dandelion Mama is going through the same thing, and I know what you're feeling --I've gone through it many times myself.
Here's a hug, a prayer, and some hope that things will work out soon and that the limbo feeling will soon be put to rest!
Oh Amber, I am so sorry that the two of you have to go through such a stressful situation. I'm hoping things turn around quickly for Jamie.
I hope things work out for you. It sounds like you are heading in the right direction.
I love your "masking" of names! LOL
Well, first of all, I have never heard a better description of fasting in my life :o)
Secondary, I'm sorry to hear that all of this is happening. I'm glad that you feel peace and I hope things fall into place quickly.
Thirdly, My jaw fell open as I was reading your story about "Heri". It's like my white knight just fell hard off of his/her horse. That person was introduced to me shortly after joining the church and that persons books/talks have been a huge inspiration to me. My heart is broken to hear this other side but knowledge is power.
Wow, I'm really sorry. Andrew's had this crazy new boss lately too who's been on a rampage. He's the worst kind of idiot--one with power. Everyone's been laying low as he fires people left and right and we've been on edge. Luckily people think twice about firing attornies :) one of the perks I suppose.
I'll be thinking about you and hoping for the best!
I am glad you feel peace. Best of luck, my thoughts and prayers are with you guys!
Hari Stew, lol.
Oddly enough I was just thinking that you hadn't mentioned much about how Jamie's job was working out. Sorry it's apparently not, but I love your positive attitude. Hang in there.
What a tough situation to be in. Sometimes limbo is the hardest time, but I am glad your fast brought you peace. I sincerely hope things work out for your family soon. We will be praying for you.
And what crazy stories about your former employment position. I never would have thought?!? Thanks for opening my eyes.
(((HUGS)))
i think not, also. i'm definitely a believer of God closing doors and opening windows. and i think He moves us from one place to another through circumstances beyond our control and sometimes that includes pain and/or misery.
i'll be praying that this new job - or any new job - will become available soon. and for your continued peace... which is a good thing.
I read the title of this post and thought: Sweet, maybe I'll learn today how to keep my toddlers from slamming the doors all day long...
I'm sorry about Jamie's job - that must have been so stressful before the layoff and now stressful after it too. I hope the company courting him will come through and see that he's the guy for them - and soon so you don't have to be in limbo for long!
And very interesting about Heri Stew.
Been there, bought the shirt and resold it at the garage sale.
Both Quark and I have faced this lovely situation, but none more prominent than recently when Quark accepted the VP position where is happily employed now. The educational facility where he worked before (the kind where you go to get degrees), came into his office the day after he'd given his 2 week notice with a security guard and watched as he packed up his desk and escorted him off the premise. Class Act!!!
The moral of this story is that there is always something bigger and better out there. And while we may not have the courage in and of ourselves to make the first step towards change, "The Big Guy" is great at giving us the gentle nudge when He knows what benefit awaits us.
In the meantime, it is stressful, I know! I'll send some good kharma your way and a few deep knee bends as well
MAN.
That sucks. Even if it is meant to be it still just sucks in the short term.
My thoughts and good wishes are with you, Amber.
P.S.
Holy moly on the Hairy Shrew thing! Seriously. It makes me sad because I liked her, but I can also totally see it. There is a revered performer I know named Hicheal Pallam who people have NO CLUE about. :S
Oh my goodness, I'm sorry. I know what being laid off feels like -- it happened to me three years in a row during the dot-com bust-up. It's like a small death. I hope Jamie finds an even better job and that this layoff is actually a blessing.
Oh what a scary time! We went through this last summer when my dh was off for 6 weeks.
God will provide!
I am praying for you.
Interesting story about Heri. Hmm.
Anyway, good luck with everything. I hope things work out for you soon. You have lots of prayers coming your way.
Feeling peace is always the 31 thing.
You've already prayed and fasted.
Wishing you the best :)
amber, i hope everything works out well for your family. it sounds like this is the right path for Jamie, I guess just a little patience and things will be better than before. take care. thinking of you!
(((AMBER)))) I just listened to a great talk on cd (Rough Start Great Finish by J. Bytheway) and he talks about how we must go through the wilderness before we reach the promised land. Maybe now Jamie will find the "promised land" in his professional world?!
So sorry!
Happy Valentine's Day
Oh the turmoil. I'm so sorry that you are going through this right now. And I hope it gets resolved soon. Good attitude, girl!
Thanks for the great post. Great reminder that people aren't always how they seem and things always seem to work out for the best. Just not always how we think or want.
So glad you have peace and truly hope it continues.
I am glad you are at peace. everything in life for a reason, this I know. All will be better soon.
I am so sorry to hear that. A little over 2 years ago we had to move from our homeland of Virginia because of job issues.
You have a great attitude! You are a good example...even if you don't realize it.
Hope it all works out for the best. You have shown great strength already.
This gives my Heri Pew Book "No one can take your Place" a whole new meaning. Thanks for the laughs and good luck with the job hunt.
Ummm yea...My husband has done some buisness with Heri Shew was it? Well he told me Sher...I mean Heri Shew was really cold and seemd like a mean bitter woman. HOpefully things will start to go better. It is sooo crazy to have bad things like this happen but then a couple months down the road you look back and see how it was the best thing for you. Hopefully it will be an easy and good situation for you. Good luck!
Been there, done that, two weeks after buying our first home. It was a very rough road to travel but I have been so grateful for the changes that is made it our lives. Hang in there. If any couple can make it, you guys can.
I am so sorry about the lay off but like you said it is probably a blessing in disguise :) and WOW about Heri....had no idea! :)
So you're feeling like that Eagle's song, "I Got A Peaceful, Easy Feeling?"
That's a definite good sign.
After seeing my Papi graduate in December and fly all over the place for interviews and then getting offered sucky salaries, we too are in limbo. At least I have my lucrative newspaper carrier career to fall back on.
Hugs to you guys!!!!
:-( I am so sorry to hear about this. I think the vacation is just what you guys need. And, uh, it sounds like if you keep fasting, you'll have that waist back before you know it!
Amber - I'm so sorry to hear this... but as you said, in the title of your post, windows will open. I admire your faith...
I am so sorry. I have been in your shoes.... I agree with you- I think the Lord has his hand in everything! Happy Anniversary! Have a great trip!
I hope it all works out - the fasting is incredible sounding.
Just wanted to say that I hope things look up and from reading your recent post it looks like they will. Happy Anniversry! Enjoy your trip to Carmel, too! :)
I am really sorry to hear about all this. I hope the new deal works out and that it's a new beginning for Jamie!
Ack! What a rotten situation!
But your wedding picture is beautiful. And I don't know if it makes you feel any better, but I just gave you a blog award. It's a pink lion. Those are always cheering, aren't they?? Come get him!
I love that you are looking at the whole big picture. Sometimes that is so tough to do. You are right--he will move on to a better situation. It's comforting to know that there is someone who is mindful of us and is always watching over us.
Good luck, Sweetie. I'll be more than happy to pray for you, too - fasting, not so much - hope it all works out.
oh amber, i'm so sorry to hear to news. i'm sure everything will work out.
Argh. I'm sorry to hear about this. I've been wrapped up in my own stuff for awhile. It sounds like other avenues are opening, so I'm sure you'll both be okay. Hugs, and my thoughts are with you.
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